Relax from Within, Feeling Whole and Complete in the Now

By George E. Lockett SSHA, IIHHT

Releasing tension is one of the best ways to re-establish balance and wholeness in your life. This is something you do for yourself consciously and with awareness through being present in the Now and centred within yourself.

Life has many pressures that can affect your balance and wholeness. When you look in people's faces you can sometimes see and feel their life experiences written on their face. Some say this gives people character, but my own feeling is that they are carrying around with them past experiences which may overshadow and colour their perception of life.

Releasing this tension through conscious awareness within your Self can help to re-centre your energies and make your consciousness more whole and complete, thereby giving you the awareness to be in tune with the Universal Life Force and gain the support of the environment in fulfilling your dreams and aspirations.

So how do we consciously release the tension? I find the best way is through conscious breathing, which you can do as you go to bed at night. As you lie there waiting for sleep to envelop you, you can take your awareness to your breath and breathe consciously with awareness into any areas of tension you may feel within your face and body.

As you get good at this, you start to notice the subtle nuances within your skin which let you know when your body's energy blueprint is in alignment and balance with your physiology.

Self-awareness is one of the best ways to expand consciousness and come into alignment with the Self. Over time you will realize that as you centre in the Self, you are centring the Universe and the life force within you, and this helps you evolve and connect with your life's purpose.

Practising this daily with the use of positive visualization can change your body's energy vibration. As your body's vibration rises in the Ascension process and your outlook becomes more life-supporting, you start to use the law of attraction to attract into your life your heart's dreams and aspirations.

The Universe comes around you, bringing you all the things you have lovingly crafted in your mind's eye through positive visualization. Life becomes an effortless process of Self-love and visualization. Things in your environment will naturally change to reflect you new outlook on life. Abundance will be the natural result of being more relaxed and creative, and enjoying the work you do.

More and more people are growing in this awareness, as they become more conscious of the subtle energies within, and become more spiritual in their nature.

As the spirit within the person is strengthened so his or her health will naturally improve and the body's energy blueprint will become stronger, holding every cell and molecule together in a natural, balanced way, giving clear instructions and just feeling good inside you.

As you grow in wholeness and Self-love these feelings will grow and you will find yourself naturally smiling at everyone you meet. You will make friends more easily and will have a positive outlook on life. Fear will dissolve as you connect more and more with the energies in your heart, which is the centre of Love - in whose presence Fear ceases to exist.

Forgiveness is a wonderful tool for reclaiming your power in life, for as long as you are blaming others entirely for your life's situation, you aren't seeing that situation clearly, and therefore you have little power to change it.

Forgive those who wrong you, and take personal responsibility for your part in any situation. With the knowledge that you can think any thought in any moment, think about what it is that you want to create. Remember, what you put your attention on grows; so focus on things which bring Joy and Happiness into your life, and then you will soon align your energies to your life's purpose.

Emotional Pain

By Robert E. Najemy is the author of over 25 books and is a life coach with 30 years of experience.

We feel emotional pain when we do not get what we want, need, or expect. We might feel hurt, rejection, bitterness, abuse, injustice or simply emotional pain.

In such cases, we have not received the behavior or outcomes we expected or believed we deserved.

We feel this kind of feel pain in cases when people do not behave to us in the ways that we had expected as well as in situations where life does not give us what we feel we need or deserve.

We believe, "I cannot feel happy unless I get that which I believe I need."

We have associated our security, satisfaction, self-worth or freedom with something that we are not getting from persons, society, God, or life as a whole.

Some examples might be when:

• Others lie to or deceive us.
• They do not support us when we need them.
• They reject or criticize us.
• We fail at some task, which we feel that we should have succeeded at.
• We loose a loved one.
• Our loved one shows preference to another.
• People important to us do not show us the respect we expect.
• Others do harm to us or our loved ones.
• We are accused of doing or saying something we did not do.
• When are falsely suspected of having ulterior motives.
• "Friends" gossip about us behind our backs.
• We are not given the raise of promotion we believe we deserve at work.
• Others do not keep their agreements with us.
• We are robbed.
• We lose our fortune in some way.

You can add many more situations in which we feel hurt because we have not received the respect, love, affection, loyalty, truth, kindness and justice that we were expecting.

Positive Alternatives to Feeling Hurt
Positive alternatives to feeling hurt, bitterness and injustice could be:

We can have Faith in divine wisdom and justice.
We are all in a process of evolution and nothing can happen to us, which is not exactly what we need in order to learn our next lesson. So rather than be overwhelmed by negative feelings, we can seek to discover what we can learn through this experience.

Our lessons usually have to do with discovering the strength, security and self-worth, which are within us. As souls in the process of evolution, we are constantly being directed to contact and bring to the surface our spiritual self.

This means realizing that we are whole within and can feel safe, worthy and fulfilled regardless of what is happening around us.

Thus, every event which might cause us to feel pain is also a great opportunity to contact our inner spiritual self and move on and beyond this pain.

We are the sole creators of our reality.
We as souls create our reality through:

• Our past choices, thoughts, words and actions.
• Our present conscious and subconscious beliefs, feelings and needs.
• The lessons we have chosen to learn at this stage of our evolutionary process.
• How we subjectively interpret what is happening.

Thus others are simply actors in the scenarios of our life the script of which we have written.
We can create a happier reality by:

• Transforming our conscious and subconscious beliefs.
• Learning our life lessons.
• Interpreting events in a different way - as opportunities for growth rather than as injustices.

Forgiving and forgetting the past.
In light of what we have said above, others are not responsible for our reality and thus can easily be forgive. Such forgiveness frees us from negative feelings and allows us to transcend pain.

Thus we can overcome emotional pain by:

• Realizing that every event is exactly what we need for our evolutionary process.
• Learn the lessons involved.
• Forgive others and ourselves.

Ten Rules to Live and Love By

By Kathy Freston from the Oprah Show

Seeing your partner through the lens of love rather than fear automatically elevates the relationship to a higher plane. When you can get quiet and note when you are projecting fear, you can make the adjustment to see through a different filter. So often we feel indignant or incensed, but upon closer inspection we will find that we are really afraid. Once we assume our partner's core goodness rather than focusing on their "guilt," they will be more free to show us their best, which accelerates the process of shifting our perspective from one of blame and anxiety to one of acceptance and peace.

Being willing to forgive yourself and your partner, and to make amends when necessary is an ongoing process of cleanup. We all make mistakes; it's human. But when we hold fast to a grudge it eats away at our sense of peace and serenity. If you aren't willing to forgive, you might ask yourself what habit of ego you're attached to. Do you want to continue life with unresolved issues hanging over you?

When we take a stand and refuse to let go of something, we can always find evidence to justify it. Or we can try to make peace. Instead of blaming or making excuses, we can clean things up and move forward. This is not an excuse for staying in a dysfunctional situation, but an opportunity to see innocence. Once we do that, we gain—or give—freedom to move out of a "stuck" place.

Relaxing when times get tough; assuming that "this too shall pass" allows you to roll with the punches. If you know things will inevitably arise to challenge you, you can be more detached when they do. Problems become worse when we dig in our heels and try to force a solution. By relaxing into whatever struggle arises, we remain flexible and open to inspiration and insight.

Even if you have a hard time letting go, you can at least observe yourself taking things very seriously, which in itself helps to detach you from the experience of anxiety. Whatever is happening now won't be happening a year from now, so just keep breathing through the situation and see if you can take things a little less seriously.

Seeing in the dynamic of the relationship the reflection of what you need to learn helps bring you back to what is important. Sometimes we get lost in the chatter of day-to-day patterns and lose sight of the soul's mandate to bring us closer to realizing our Oneness. The best way to see where we need to work on things is to observe who we are and what we do within the context of a relationship. Any time you recognize your impulse to create distance rather than intimacy, you can make the adjustment and get back on track.

This relationship, as with all relationships, is part of a curriculum to evolve into our highest potential. We come to know ourselves by how we interact with our partner, and by so doing we come to know Spirit.

When you don't know how to handle a problem, pray and meditate.
Praying and meditating aligns your limited energy with that which is all-powerful. Of course we don’t have all the answers, but by consigning our limitations to our Higher Power, our burden is lifted. We need to be accountable for our words and actions and be willing to work through where we are stuck. We need to stay present and forgive. Beyond that, our creative power is fueled by Spirit. By praying, we ask for help and guidance; by meditating we clear our minds so that the answer will become apparent. By moving aside, we create an opening for God to work miracles in ways we could never imagine.

Honoring your partner's path and allow them the space to find their own way sends a clear message of respect. People need to work things out in their own manner and in their own time. If you try to help where help is not requested, you are signaling your lack of belief in your partner. If you back off and assume someone is strong and intelligent, strength and intelligence are what they will likely find.

Although we are all on this path of realization and expansion together, each of us is unique in our lessons to be learned; the way you do something might be totally different than how someone else needs to process a situation. Rest assured that Spirit is at work in all of our lives, and give yourself a rest from overseeing your partner's personal business.

Keeping up your personal growth work means you will keep your mind sharp and your awareness keen. Read, study, and attend lectures; don't rest on the laurels of what you think you already know. The moment we think we have it all figured out is the moment things will come crashing down around us. Arrogance leaves no room for intimacy or growth, and is certainly not part of a spiritual curriculum. When you immerse yourself in learning, you will always have new skills and interests to apply to a relationship, and thus the relationship will always feel fresh and relevant.

Following the path of your own creativity keeps you attuned to that which moves and inspires you. As you indulge your creative side, you become less dependent on your partner to feel whole. Creative energy is the force that breaks new ground. To sustain love, we need to continually fuel whatever inspires us on the deepest level. Also, creativity balances out the egoic and intellectual side of life; it teaches us to play and have fun. When we engage our passions, we radiate passionate energy and thus maintain the interest of our partner as well as having your own sense of fulfillment.

Staying present keeps us in the moment which is where life is. Life does not exist in future predictions or past grievances; all we have for sure is right here and right now. Every moment teaches us something, and if we are busily trying to change or control something we miss the grace intended for us.

By allowing the sacred mystery to unfold without trying to tamper with it, we can move through anything with much more ease and simplicity. As we cease resisting, any so-called negative situation or emotion will have the space to work out. And by the same token, when we are completely alert and aware in any given moment, we are open to the subtle miracles happening all around us. By staying present, we will see our partner for who they are; we will hear clearly their communication and respond to it astutely.

Being grateful for what you have zeros in on what is working, which in turn magnetizes more of the same. Where you put your focus is where you direct your creative intention; so if you want abundance, be grateful for the vitality you have now. If you want a soulful relationship, be grateful for the soulful moments. Gratitude is like a seed you plant; it grows more as it is watered and nourished. Show your partner what you appreciate in them and let them know that they have a positive effect in your life. The acknowledgement of good will call forth more of the same.