I am doing a little research and I am hoping that you all can give me a little bit of help. Below are 10 questions about lesbian life that I would love for you to answer. They aren't in any special order and you don't need to answer them all. Just leave your answers as comments at the end of this post or email them to me at girl2grl@sonic.net. Don't worry, I am not going to publish your names on the blog, I am more interested in the different answers I will receive.
- What do you think are the biggest health issues facing lesbian women today?
- Do you think that the lesbian community as a whole is more or less health conscious?
- Do you think lesbians are more accepting of women who are overweight?
- Do you think lesbians have more or less stress in their lives then our straight counterparts? And if so, why?
- How long do you think the average lesbian relationship lasts?
- What do you think are some of the most common problems lesbians face in long-term relationships?
- Do you think lesbians tend to get into more "unhealthy" relationships than straight women?
- Have you ever had a commitment ceremony, marriage or otherwise (this does include Domestic Partners), in any of your relationships? And if you have, how many times total?
- At what age did you start dating women?
- At what age did you tell your family that you're a lesbian?
That is all for today. Thank you in advance for helping me with this survey.
1 comment:
1. Well, obviously... HIV. Another big issue, I think is the role our sexual identity plays in obtaining healthcare and/or being forthright with healthcare providers about our sexual orientation. I think some simply do not always get the care they need because they are afraid of discrimination and being prejudiced against. And, often, when they do seek care, they don't tell their healthcare provider that they are gay/bi/TG...
Lesbians worry more about breast cancer. Depression, especcially among the youth, and substance abuse are also big issues impacting the GLBT community.
2. I think we are more health conscious as a whole, but there are often breaks in follow through when professional care is warranted.
3. Yes, I think we are more accepting of women who are over-weight. We see beyond the surface... into the person inside. Not saying that there are not shallow, narrow-minded lesbians, but as a whole... we are much more accepting.
4. Well, we have to deal with all the same issues as our straight counterparts... PLUS the fact that we are lesbians... and that brings with it all sorts of "fun stuff", now doesn't it? :)
5. Oh, someone was just telling me about this. Five years. I am so glad that I am not average... I met my wife Tina on my 21st birthday... I will be celebrating my 26th this September. We were married last October... I told Tina that she was my "forever"... and, "forever" is a damn sight longer than five years! :)
6. Communication!!! That's a biggie!!! HUGE!! We tend to get "comfortable" and complacent in our relationship... doing the "same old thing" day after day...communication becomes a "casualty".
Two "secrets" to a successful, long term relationship... COMMUNICATION... and... get a partner who is several years younger or older than you. Tina is six years older than me. While this is not a huge age difference... I feel quite strongly that it has been a very positive aspect of our relationship... wisdom to balance out youthful exuberance... and youth to add some spice! LOL!!
7. I think we do. No one wants to be alone. Women are a minority... lesbian women even more so. We often tend to look for a "quick fix" to our relationship woes. I think the situation is exacerbated in today's fast-paced, technology-driven society... where instant gratification is not only the norm, but is demanded!
8. One ceremony... marriage. 1,497 days into our relationship (yeah, I know... what were we waiting for?)... with no "breaks"... Tina and I married.
9. Amanda was my sexual awakening... the "epiphany" of my sexual identity. I met Amanda about six weeks before my 17th birthday... she was the first girl I had ever been with. Before, I knew that something was "wrong" with me, but not what... the first time our hands touched... it was like my eyes and heart were opened for the first time, and I knew exactly who and what I was!
10. Age 17... well, a couple of weeks shy. And, I didn't exactly tell Mama... she came home unexpectedly, and caught Amanda and I in her bed... "soixante-neuf", as it were...
It didn't go well, but that is a whole other story...
Thank you for putting this survey pout... I hope my answers are of some help.
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