By Judy Kinney How do I respond to these longings when I'm already living a full and mostly happy life? Can I trust these longings? and, What is the source of these longings?
Many of my conversations with clients, friends, and colleagues these days revolve around how to respond to an emerging and deep seated wanting. Regardless of the individual desire, each person is tapping into a deeply rooted part of their soul.
If this is true for you, or others in your life, I want you to know that you have lots of company! There are many others who are also exploring how to respond to these seemingly old longings that are popping up now. Many people are asking them self:
How do I respond to these longings when I'm already living a full and mostly happy life?
Can I trust these longings? and,
What is the source of these longings?
Beneath most of our longings is a deeply rooted desire to belong. Belonging is a bit of a dance because while we are intimately connected to all that is, there is something within each of us that a person or thing can't fully satisfy. I'm sure you've experienced this personal sovereignty if you've ever gotten the relationship, job, or house, that you wanted. You may have relaxed into the moment, opened your heart only to have your peace disrupted as you realize that something is missing.
Let yourself want freely. Below I have a set of questions that help you sort out what you want and what you want to do something about.
Welcome with an open heart, that as a sovereign being, you have a full and wonderful range of longings that won't be completely satisfied.
Recognize that we're all living in unsettled times. Rather than wishing for what was, ask yourself "how do I want to contribute to the world (or my life) today?"
Understand that your surest guide is always within you. Spend time daily nurturing your relationship with yourself and the divine/god/source to access the love, safety, freedom, abundance, security, connection, happiness, and peace always residing within you.
- Your soul loves the dangerousness of growth and a old part of your mind resists change with wily determination. As I've said before, within this dissonance, life becomes art.
"Should" Goals. What goals SHOULD you pursue this year?
Deep Wants. What do you want more than anything in the world whether you've said it out loud or not?
Fairy Godmother Wants. What would you want if you could have anything you want and NOT have to do a thing to obtain or keep them?
Happy Wants. What would you want if you knew you wouldn't be unhappy about NOT getting it?
WOW Wants! In the next day or year, what would make you go, WOW!!
It is always great to simply let your self want what you want! If you're ready to take action on your wants, these next questions can help you prioritize and put a plan in place. Go through your list and ask yourself:
Regardless of whether or not I think I can actually have this or not,
do I really WANT it?
- If your answer was a clear yes, circle your answer.
- If your answer was a clear no, cross it off.
- If your answer was ANYTHING but a no-brainer, consider it a no for now.
Once you have your project list, identify the item that grabs your attention first, and begin there! Enjoy!